It’s hard to believe another year is behind us, although 2018 felt like 3 years in one – I’m not quite sure how I explain that but it was a busy, crazy, whirlwind of a year, and everything that took place made it feel like it should have been across years rather than 12 whole months. Some people get to their twenties and think they know it all, but trust me there’s so much to learn about life, about yourself, and about those around you, and these are things I feel like I’m just starting to scratch the surface with. A bold statement to make, but 2018 has been the best year for me and all I have to say to it is ‘thank you for the lessons‘ because it taught me many and I’ll discuss them below.
Spontaneity may be something that terrifies the life out of you but it’s so important to take risks and realise the importance of spontaneity. Yes, routine is great, but stepping outside of that can lead to some of the greatest stories told. You hear people all the time saying ‘Some of the best memories are a result of unexpected plans‘ and this is a motto I want to incorporate more of into my life. Try something different, book that flight, go on that date with the guy or girl you’ve had your eye on, because you’ll never know the outcome unless you actually take the first steps that are involved. 2018 made me realise that I need to have a better relationship with spontaneity. Whether it was booking last minute trips to some of the many places on my bucketlist, or trying to get my flirting head on and get back on the dating scene – I realised just how important it is to face the fear and take the risks, and so far the risks I have taken have been wonderful so here’s to more of that this year.
Confidence is key
Confidence gets you places in life, and I’m not talking about being overly confident and on the verge of cocky (that might work for some but that’s not the type of person I want to be). I can gladly admit that I’m not the most confident of people, but are any of us 100% confident? If you are then fantastic, please teach me your ways. Anyway, 2018 taught me a lot about confidence, whether it was for job interviews or just realising my worth as an individual. I’m in the mindset that if someone doesn’t see your worth then to heck with them because YOU are great! Be confident, realise your greatness and remind yourself of just how far you’ve come, because when you do that it can completely change your perspective. The better you are, the better you attract, and confidence not only motivates you, but it also leads to growth in terms of viewing setbacks or failures as an element of growth rather than a bad thing, and can improve the types of relationships you have with people. Here’s to being a more confident you in 2019 and realising that self-love isn’t selfish, it’s essential.
Step out of your comfort zone
Stepping out of your comfort zone not only leads to personal growth but it can reduce any fears you may have which leads to a sense of achievement. You may also discover something you love so it’s a win win. This may sound silly but 2018 was a time for stepping out of my comfort zone in many ways, one of which was starting driving lessons. This is something I put off for as long as I could, living in a central location I don’t exactly need a car so that combined with me just being a paranoid passenger in any type of vehicle resulted in me trying to avoid all talk of ever driving (despite it being something that would be highly beneficial such as giving me that little bit more independence). After finally plucking up the courage to start them in Summer, I wish I had done it sooner, and despite the lack of consistency in terms of how many lessons I have every week or so due to my many trips late in the year, I’ll hopefully be passing my test shortly and purchasing my first car. So, if there’s something you’re wanting to do but you don’t want to step outside of the ‘comfort circle‘, take the leap, hop, tiptoe, whatever pace you want to go at, but certainly go for it – trying is the first step to success.
It’s okay to go at your own pace
On a daily basis you can turn on your phone, log in to social media and the next thing you know you’re reading about people buying their first place, couples getting engaged, pregnancy announcements, and individuals scoring their dream jobs. In today’s society nothing is kept a secret from social media, you can head on to someone’s Twitter or Facebook and learn absolutely everything that’s going on in their life. I have a love/hate relationship with social media (surprising when I have a blog and share so much on here, I know). It’s fantastic seeing people succeeding in life, but the downside is that so many people start to compare themselves to others, and I don’t believe in questioning yourself just because you’re not on the same chapter as others in the book we call life. Know that it’s okay to go at your own pace, you’re your own person, there’s no pressure to do things by a certain age regardless of what others say.
Change is inevitable
We have to admit that we all like the feeling of being comfortable, we like routine and living in our familiar little bubble, but change is inevitable whether you like it or not. There’s no point worrying about change though, if you spent all of your time worrying about what could happen or what could go wrong then you’ll never enjoy the present. Let the future play out the way it’s supposed to and live in the moment. You just have to embrace any changes that come your way and realise that everything does happen for a reason.
Turn a negative into a positive
Negatives don’t always have to mean doom and gloom, and sometimes they’re actually a blessing in disguise. You didn’t get that job you wanted? Yes that’s disappointing but maybe just maybe you didn’t get that specific job because there’s a bigger and better vacancy out there waiting for you to fill it. I always try to see the positive side of any situation and I think it’s important to view things from another perspective because when you do so, it doesn’t always seem so bad after all.
Travel travel travel. The word travel is enough to get me excited and 2018 was the year of travel for me with 5 trips to the likes of Dubai, Berlin, Prague and Gran Canaria. I’d love nothing more than to travel the world, as travelling broadens your perspective, allows you to connect with others and gives you the opportunity to immerse yourself in the cultures of countries that you visit – the benefits are much larger than mentioned, but these are just some of the aspects I love about travel. At this age it’s all about saving, whether to fly the nest and move into your own place, or for a car… the list of adult things you require to save for goes on, but it’s important to realise that whilst you’re focusing on all the serious adult aspects of life, don’t forget to enjoy life too. My travel bug is taking over and this year I want to tick America off my bucketlist so hopefully that becomes a reality. I’m the type of person that doesn’t like staying in the one place for too long so here’s to spontaneously booking lots more trips this year and getting my “Dora the explorer” on.
Again, like every year 2018 was eye opening and another learning experience. I’m open to learning lessons and I can’t wait to find out the lessons that 2019 has in store for me – they will only continue to make me into the best person I can be.